Self-discovery matters, whether your motivation is spiritual growth, making better decisions, or showing up authentically so your contributions can happen. For me personally, the more I understand myself, the more I understand God. But whatever drives your interest in knowing yourself better, the path you take makes all the difference in whether you’ll actually follow through.
Today I want to share why personality profiling with practical style application creates a uniquely engaging path to self-discovery, and why the homework in this approach is something you’ll genuinely look forward to.
I’m going to walk you through why self-discovery matters, the common approaches and their challenges, and why understanding your personality through cognitive functions with practical wardrobe exploration offers something different. You’ll hear my own story of how this became my map for personal growth, and why this particular path makes self-discovery feel less like assigned work and more like genuine discovery.
WHY IS SELF-DISCOVERY IMPORTANT?
There’s something spiritually mature people across different traditions seem to agree on: the more you understand yourself, the more you understand God. Self-knowledge isn’t narcissism. It’s actually a form of worship, recognizing how you’re uniquely designed.
But self-knowledge also has practical implications. When you understand how your mind actually works, you make better decisions. You experience less friction in daily life. You show up more authentically, which means people can actually see who you are and receive the contributions you’re meant to make.
For women who have been generous to the point of self-erasure, knowing yourself becomes essential. Your contributions aren’t happening because people don’t see who you actually are. Self-discovery isn’t self-indulgent. It’s the foundation for showing up in ways that let your gifts be recognized and received.
COMMON APPROACHES TO SELF-DISCOVERY
Most paths to self-discovery fall into a few categories, and they all have real value. But they also have real costs and challenges.
Therapy and counseling focus on healing past wounds and processing trauma. This is essential work for many people, but it typically costs $100 to $300 per session and requires significant emotional labor. It’s difficult work by design.
Meditation and mindfulness programs develop present-moment awareness. They might be free or cost up to a few hundred dollars for courses, but they require daily discipline and the ability to sit still regularly.
Journaling is one of the most affordable options at the cost of a notebook, but it has its own challenges. If you’re an extravert, you might struggle with solo reflection since you process externally through conversation. If you’re an introvert, you might enjoy journaling but risk getting stuck in your own thought patterns without outside perspective to challenge your assumptions or reveal blind spots.
All of these approaches are valuable. But they share something in common: they require either significant financial investment, substantial discipline, or the risk of getting stuck without external input.
MY OWN STRUGGLE WITH SELF-KNOWLEDGE
I lead with an extraverted judging function, which means I’m very aware of how things should be organized in the outer world. My fixation, like all EJ types, is management. But my inferior function is an introverted judging function, which means I’m not naturally aware of how things should be organized in my inner world.
So my personal growth journey has been about discovering what my own preferences actually are.
Before I became aware of all this, I had gradually woken up to the reality that my life had become intolerable because I didn’t have contexts where I was received as myself. To combat this, I first started blogging. Eventually, I started noticing that people responded to me more like I wanted to be received when I wore brighter colors. That observation led me to train with my mentor Carla Mathis in style and color analysis.
But it took deeper training in Myers-Briggs, cognitive functions, and personality dynamics to be able to produce the Personality Style Blueprints. I did that training in 2024.
Here’s what most people don’t realize: if people understand Myers-Briggs at all, it’s at the dichotomy level. The four letters. But that’s just scratching the surface. The cognitive functions really make it like a map for personal growth. And that map doesn’t just show you how you’re wired. It also gives you the building blocks for your signature style.
SELF-DISCOVERY, PERSONALITY, AND STYLE
So here’s what makes this approach to self-discovery different.
It starts with a two-hour personality profiling conversation where we discover your type through the patterns in how you actually operate. We’re not relying on test results. We’re looking at your real life, your actual energy patterns, how you make decisions and take in information.
Then you receive your Personality Style Blueprint, which explains your cognitive function stack and how each function relates to your style preferences. For example, if you have Extraverted Sensing in your stack, you’ll understand why you value visual precision, why you’re naturally attuned to beauty, why you prefer more relaxed silhouettes over very structured looks.
You also receive a Seasonal Energy Digital Palette. During our conversation, I ask you questions about which of the four seasonal energies resonates with you. You get input into how you experience yourself energetically. Then I select one of twenty pre-built palettes that honors both your energy and your current coloring.
This is just the starting point for developing your signature style. But here’s what makes the homework genuinely enjoyable: you’re trying things on with new understanding. You’re noticing patterns in what you’re drawn to. You’re testing your palette colors and seeing how they work. You’re discovering why certain elements feel congruent and others don’t.
It’s collaborative discovery, not an assignment handed to you. Because you arrived at these insights together in conversation, continuing to explore feels like your idea, not someone else’s requirement.
THE HOMEWORK IS ACTUALLY ENJOYABLE
Remember psychologist William Glasser’s principle: fun is the genetic reward for learning. When self-discovery feels enjoyable, you engage more deeply and retain what you learn.
The homework in this approach is tangible and immediate. You’re not processing difficult emotions alone. You’re not maintaining daily meditation discipline. You’re not staring at a blank journal page. You’re going to your closet and trying things on.
You’re getting permission to trust what you’re drawn to. Oh, I’m naturally attuned to beauty because of my Extraverted Sensing? That’s authentic to my personality, not shallow vanity.
And you’re seeing results in real time. You’re not waiting to “do the work” before seeing change. You’re discovering patterns as they show up in your actual wardrobe, your actual life.
The free Myers-Briggs Key to Signature Style video masterclass explains exactly why understanding your type at the cognitive function level changes everything. It shows you why those four letters are actually a code, and what that code unlocks about how you’re wired and how that wiring relates to visual expression.
THE STARTING POINT FOR YOUR JOURNEY
Understanding your personality through cognitive functions and seeing how it relates to style becomes the foundation for developing your signature style. It’s not the complete journey, but it’s the essential starting point.
Most people think self-discovery requires difficult emotional work, but actually personality profiling with practical style application makes self-discovery delightful.
This is exactly what The Congruence Code is designed to do. It includes that personality profiling conversation where we discover your type through your actual patterns, your Personality Style Blueprint that becomes your map for growth, and your Seasonal Energy Digital Palette that honors both your energy and your coloring.
You walk away knowing your cognitive function stack, understanding your flow state and growth edge, and having tools to make style choices that support rather than hinder who you really are.
Here’s something simple you can do this week to integrate these principles into your wardrobe:
Choose three outfits from your closet that make you feel most like yourself. These should be the ones where you forget what you’re wearing and just feel present. Lay them out and look for common themes. What do they share? Similar colors? Level of structure or relaxation? Visual simplicity or complexity? Don’t analyze why yet. Just notice what patterns emerge when you’re drawn to what feels genuinely congruent.
If you’re ready to discover your own cognitive function stack and understand how your personality relates to your style, The Congruence Code gives you everything you need to start. You’ll get a two-hour personality profiling conversation, your Personality Style Blueprint that explains exactly how your mental wiring shows up in your wardrobe choices, and a Seasonal Energy Digital Palette chosen collaboratively based on how you experience yourself. This is the starting point for developing a signature style that feels genuinely congruent with who you are. Use the contact form below to schedule your personality profiling conversation and begin the self-discovery path you’ll actually enjoy.